Who says that there is a certain day of the year that we need to plan for all these grand changes to take place in our lives? Typically, folks tend to make all these ideas for the NEW YEAR. New SCHEDULES, new SELF IMAGE, new GOALS, new PRIORITIES, new JOBS, etc. Whoever started this ideal (which I could do the research and find out, but why?) had it all wrong! Why does one bursting moment of the calendar change have to be THE MOMENT to think about our lives? Isn't your life valuable EACH and EVERY moment? If you have not thought of this quite to this depth, then I encourage you to do so NOW.
Our lives, our moments and our daily grind is a gift. Once that moment leaves, it is the past and we can not get it back. All those curves, hills, valleys, twists and plateaus, (that are sometimes quite difficult to handle)....are PERFECT! Perfect in the way that it shapes us, teaches us, changes us and allow us to grow. We may not see it at the time, but truly when we surrender and learn from these pasts, we have everything to gain. Now, that does NOT mean that we will have no pain, no valleys and no more curves in the opposite direction which we THINK we need to be traveling. No no no. But in the end people ALWAYS say.... if I only knew THEN....what I know NOW... Have you ever heard that saying?
Let's take a look at some events and see if anything rings a bell.
1. I want this house SOOO BADLY, BUT.... then later you find the perfect HOME that fits the path that your life took. Remember a small HOME filled with love is so much MORE than any size HOUSE absent from the commitment of a couple sharing their love journey together.
2. I would like 3 babies.... BUT.... you were blessed with FOUR! That last bundle has a purpose! You just wait and see! ALL of those babies HAVE A PURPOSE. Male, Female, Fair or Dark, "perfect to your standards or perfect with disabilities", EACH life is precious and born for their purpose.
3. I want to WEIGH this or wear that SIZE.....BUT.... you are graced with curves and look FABULOUS! Let me point this out first and foremost....LOOKS are only skin deep! While exercising the body to your capabilities is ultimately healthy and important...giving in to social stereotypes is NOT. Who really wants to be around a beautiful - "ugly" personality of a person? NOT ME! For those numbers???... {PLEASSSSSE Modeling careers need all shapes and weights of people, from petite to plus size to sports modeling, etc, it is their own CONFIDENCE that sells them to an agent... construction workers, sports players, actors or even comedians don't let their "number" phase them, in fact they have to eat more to have the calories to burn due to their active schedules. So why do many people dislike their own body instead of accepting those things that we can not change. We can want all day and night but if we are not tall and thin or graced with muscles like a body builder even though we try try try... We simply were not meant to be that "look". Same goes for all those dieters on the lifelong roller coaster ride, what you once were...may not be what you will remain. Change of our bodies is a part of life. I beg you to see the BEAUTY that lies INSIDE yourself and beam with that positive energy instead. The image in the mirror, yes, is important but do not allow it to DEFINE you. Show the world, you are YOU because of WHO you are... not what you look like or don't look like. After all, I don't wish to be a "cookie cutter" and look like everyone else. If THAT was the plan... Don't you think we would have been made that way? Our bodies are like our minds and our traits... UNIQUE and REJOICE in the differences! (even TWINS are not identical in all ways)
4. I wish I could WORK at that place because I want to do this for my CAREER! Well guess what? We don't always get what we want. :( hey... Turn the frown upside down and SMILE.. Something better is coming down the pike! You may not see it right then and there.. But it is COMING! You will be SO GLAD that you did not get that "other job" because there is a greater plan and a better job in store for you!
5. HE (or she) is the person for ME! I heard a story that was so dear. Get this... in college a person set up a friend on a blind date. The friend knew of the checklist of yes' and no's but there was ONE problem with the blind date that fell on the NO WAY list. It was his NAME.. Now, his name is not a odd or strange or weird or silly name... it was just a name that the friend particularity did NOT wish to call her "husband" by for a lifetime. Well guess what? The blind date went well... a second date was requested and yet another. The two who started off as strangers, became friends, married and have celebrated over 40 YEARS of life together! They have children,.. grandchildren and even great grandchildren on the way. Miles of vacations and memories of traditions throughout their lives, as well as the love that seems to be only found in fairy tale stories still lasts to this day. WHOA... and to think that this girl would have missed the boat (ummm sayYACHT!!) that carried her prince charming all because his name is George.
I find it funny (scratching my head in wonder) NO- not really... but rather... INTERESTING or honestly...SAD... just how much pressure we place upon ourselves for acceptance in this world. I truly pray for those who suffer with wanting to "fit in" or be this or that. Rather than - finding YOU... be YOU...ACCEPT YOU. If you have curly hair versus straight- it is...OK! If you have a long pointy nose- it is... OK! If you are shorter than the average male... it is... OKAY! Some folks talk with all kinds of excitement while others are very cautious to let their feelings show. Some keep us laughing and in "stitches" while there are other people who only display a distinguished side. All that is OK- as long as YOU are BEING YOU. Now, of course we all have rules to follow, manners to practice and a time or place for all of our personalities to come out- this is not what I am talking about.
What I am saying though, IS... if being a stay at home parent is your calling right now instead of a high paying career, then be the BEST CEO for your family! If working for a small salary plus commissions is your calling, be the BEST COMMITTED SALES PERSON for your clients! If being a girl in a so called guys world or being of color in a so called white world, makes you feel or possible are treated differently... then you show everyone the BEST OF YOU that can be!! America has an amazing amount of women who have achieved job titles and/or large salaries as well as America has an amazing amount of people of color who have done the same including our country's own elected leader! He of all, can show us that if we apply ourselves and have dreams and work for our goals, WE are CAPABLE of that "success" that we seek. Don't allow your gender OR your color OR your differences make you feel that you are not capable of ACHIEVING the same as someone else! Again... WE ALL HAVE A PURPOSE!
Not everyone has the skills or even desires to be the one "on top" however... it is IMPERATIVE for us to be ALL THAT WE CAN be in our own job, whatever that is. You never know when someone may see your great spirit, excellent work ethic and truest sense of confidence that will open doors to paths of your dreams. I could never envision myself as a technology guru OR a sports enthusiasts OR a great singer... but when I have let myself peck on the keyboard and "surf the net" I was given the opportunity to write for others to read - hopefully to positively inspire them to love themselves as the great and beautiful individual they are. As far sports goes, I played hostess and delivered pretty trays of food during TV time. That service allowed me to see what great fun everyone was having. In return I sat down and watch the game in a tense yet excitable way. So, for that singing thing... Well let's just say, I am soooo thankful that babies and pets love our sound versus how many records we sold...I can, however sing some pretty good lullabies! :)
Don't change for others (In fact, you can NOT change for others,) You can "play" the part but you will be living a life of turmoil within and eventually you will expose the true you. Do not let PEERS make you feel insignificant. See them for WHO they are and mind you... that is NOT a peer but rather a bully or peer PRESSURE. We all can use a cheerleader, don't get me wrong. To encourage reaching for the stars, setting our goals one extra notch higher or loving us enough to express concern for our choices BUT that is far different than peer pressure. Don't get the two confused. Pressure, leads to traveling the journey of life on a far different course. Trust your gut instincts and follow them. Pray about decisions before making them and choose wisely because each action produces a reaction.
Loving YOURSELF, allows you to fully GIVE yourself to another. Love is the greatest of gifts.
Unwrap today's present with a smile each time you look in the mirror.
Be...Simply YOU-
Melany~
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